About Veronica grant
I know you’ve felt like you’ve done EVERYTHING. And yet, no matter what, you keep ending up empty handed in your love life.
You’ve read the books, done the courses and even have gone to therapy, but you keep ending up with all the wrong people, and you’re left wondering — is it just me?
My name is Veronica Grant, and I’m a Love and Life Coach. I do this work because for years, I asked myself that same question.
Each disappointing date or relationship that didn’t work out hurt extra hard not because of him rejecting me, but because each time it was reopening my wound of loneliness and it left a relationship-shaped void in my I-have-everything-else-figured-out life.
I wondered if I was cursed in love. (Seriously.) Or if I was getting too old and all the “good ones” were already taken. I overanalyzed E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. and at one point, the anxiety just got to be too much.
Let me tell you about one of those moments. I call it my “bathroom floor” moment.
About 6 months before I met Stevie (my now husband), this guy I’d been dating for about 6 weeks broke up with me, and I was devastated.
Here’s the crazy thing: on the last 2 dates we were *supposed* to have, the guy was too drunk to pick me up!
When he broke me up with me, he told me “Veronica, I have a problem that I need to work out.”
He was 100% right, but I was desperate to help “fix” him. And I couldn’t figure out why he didn’t want to stay in the relationship so I could help him. What did I do wrong? What could I have done to make him more into me?
Nonetheless, here I was, standing in my bathroom, getting ready for another date (because, time was of the essence, obvi), sobbing while trying to put on mascara. PSA – putting on mascara and crying DO NOT go together.
I was on the phone with one of my best guy friends, and what he said to me changed everything:
“Veronica, you’re pissing me off. I don’t get how an accomplished and smart woman like yourself can let this guy get to you. He should’ve felt so lucky to be able to date you, but he was too f*ing drunk to pick you up! Get over yourself!”
Ouch. But as I looked at my swollen eyes in the mirror, I had this feeling of “How the hell did I end up here?” That’s when I realized my “problem” wasn’t a lack of a man. Nor would a man solve my problems. I sat down on my bathroom floor and cried and cried and cried. That’s when I realized,
I needed to take 100% responsibility for my happiness, and I’d been doing it backwards. I thought a good man led to a good life. And worse, I believed deep down that a man was my plan. My fiercely independent self HATED that truth.
Here’s what I need you to know…
The secret to a deep love is to do the deep work.
I know what you’re thinking :
“Isn’t the problem men? They never want a serious relationship!”
Or maybe you’re thinking, “The problem is online dating and texting. They’ve made dating horrible.”
Or maybe, “I don’t have time to do the deep work. I have to date more, time is running out!”
The funny part about the work I do with my clients is that it’s all about the dating…but it also has nothing to do with the dating.
Deep Work is the ONLY way to truly change your patterns in love. Updating your profile (again) or upping your texting game may get you more dates… but I don’t care how many dates you go on. I want you to find Deep Love.
Not even the “woo” stuff helps to shift your patterns. Energy work is great. I love astrology. I’m sure hypnotherapy is great, but nothing will change until you fundamentally change how you feel about yourself, men, women, love, what you’re capable of, what’s possible for you, and what you deserve.
The Deep Work framework includes looking at the spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical areas of your life so your transformation is sustainable and authentic to YOU.
Now, I want to help you do just that.
I’ve worked with thousands of women and I know how frustrating it can be to feel stuck hopeless in love. I know you want a committed relationship and deep love, but you’re attracting anything but.
The truth is, even though I deeply WANTED a relationship, I was not actually AVAILABLE for the relationship I wanted. Once I figured that out, everything changed.
We’re all familiar with the unavailable male stereotype – aloof, non-commital and doesn’t want to talk about emotions.
But did you know that there are other ways to be emotionally unavailable? Ways that are less stereotypical, so it’s easier to miss? Control, not sharing how you really feel or asking for what really need are just a few of those sneaky ways.
The good news is I created a free assessment to help you assess your true emotional availability.
Once you get your results, I’ve got specific steps for you to take so you can become more available for the relationship you really want.
And it’s free!
Want to know more? Here are 5 fun facts about me:
1) I love astrology (and even use it with some of my clients). I’m a Capricorn Sun, Leo Moon, and Sagittarius Rising. I’m also a toss up between ISTJ and INFJ.
2) I love the Bachelor and Bachelor adjacent shows. I believe human behavior is 100% predictable, and believe it or not, we can learn a lot about ourselves from observing popculture.
3) I met my husband in a really crappy bar in Washington, DC. So crappy, that on our one year anniversary, I wouldn’t even let him take me there!
4) My first job after grad school was as an Arabic translator, but I quickly realized that the political world wasn’t good for my health. (Lesson: It’s okay to throw it all away and start over.)
5) I once hitchhiked in Tanzania with my sister…and there was a dead body in the back of truck. (Ask me if you want the FULL story.)
Ready to dig deep, clear your blocks and find real love?
I take on a few private clients at a time so I can zero in on you and your love life. Interested? Your first step is to set up an Introductory Coaching session with me to see if we’d be a good fit to work together.
are you really ready for the relationship you want?
Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment and discover how available you really are. You'll also get next steps to take, based on your unique score!