Welcome to episode 246 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In today’s coaching episode, we’re joined by Nicole to discuss whether to follow the head or the heart when they contradict each other in relationships. It’s really her 11-year old self asking for help. A history of perfectionism, OCD, seeking the approval of family (especially her parents), and a religious upbringing all combine in her outsourcing her power. So I talk her through doing some inner work and figuring out how to get marriage off the pedestal she’s placed it on.
7:01 – What Nicole’s head is saying about her current relationship
11:23 – OCD as a child and where Nicole’s perfectionism comes from
17:30 – Nicole’s message to her 11-year-old self and how she’d respond back
20:56 – Revealing Nicole’s misalignment and the work she needs to do
27:45 – Taking note and keeping track of the stories Nicole tells herself
34:09 – Not liking yet still accepting what your partner does and compromising (or not)
38:35 – Compatibility issues and deciding if the PlayStation situation is a deal-breaker
45:02 – Nicole realizing the need to work on herself rather than find the “perfect” person
48:46 – Reiterating some concrete takeaways from this coaching call
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