What does outsourcing your worthiness look like? Many people outsource their worthiness when they think they’ll gain acceptance, love, and confidence in themselves only after they reach a certain weight… or make a certain amount of money… or live in a certain kind of house or neighborhood… or have a relationship, period.
Now, those things can make you feel good about yourself, but it becomes an issue when they’re your sole source for feeling worthy. My guest today Dante feels like her self-worth depends on being in a relationship. So in this episode, she wants to know how she can stop outsourcing her confidence and worthiness to things outside herself, particularly relationships.
2:46 – Consequences of being in a relationship to which you’ve outsourced your worthiness
7:44 – Why Dante feels her self-worth depends on being in a relationship
11:46 – How Dante felt like a bit of an outcast as a child
13:34 – The main culprit behind Dante’s inner child wounding and outsourcing
19:13 – Why Dante has a hard time letting go of the energy of one particular person
28:07 – Trouble connecting with your inner child to do the work? Try this instead
30:05 – Why trying to date and heal core wounding at the same time is a waste of time
33:35 – A cool thing to try when you connect with your inner child through journaling
34:42 – How to connect with your ancestors for answers
40:48 – The sentiment Dante shared after the call that I hear often and want to address
43:07 – Highlights and thoughts from the coaching call
47:06 – Re-capping the actions steps that Dante and you can take today
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