Beating yourself up for reaching out to the ex you just can’t seem to quit? I can’t count how often I’ve had these kinds of conversations with clients! Today, I talk with my former client M who’s frustrated with herself because she recently reengaged with an ex of hers. And it isn’t the first time she’s done it either, but she knows it’s not good for her and wants to move on completely.
The truth is that there’s a real emotional need underneath actions like this. And addressing that provides the best way for M to reach her ultimate goal: releasing this person from her life. So what is going on underneath, and what can she do? Tune in to find out and if you can relate to her (whether you’ve sought out a former partner for the first or the millionth time), I hope this episode gives you permission to be kind to yourself.
1:56 – The connection between food and reaching out to your ex
7:15 – M reveals the crux of her situation
13:03 – Going back to see where M’s feeling of invalidation comes from
18:51 – What keeps M stuck in this cycle
23:14 – Why trying to use willpower ultimately doesn’t work and what I recommend M do instead
28:48 – The one thing M might still want to explore
30:36 – Suggestions for cutting cords keeping you plugged in emotionally to things you want to release
34:32 – The key to not letting your action have power over you
39:25 – Re-emphasizing the main points of this coaching call with M
42:54 – Something I didn’t talk about with M that’s worth mentioning
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