Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High
I’m really excited about today’s topic. This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high? If they are, just tell me.” They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship. I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high.
6:56 – The first way your expectations might be too high – You believe they should know what you want
9:30 – Reason #2 your expectations may be too high – You aren’t okay with any degree of arguments or fights
12:07 – The third reason your expectations may be too high – Your partner feels like nothing they do can make you happy or they feel they’re on eggshells
14:30 – The fourth reason your expectations might be too high – You possibly have too many dealbreakers
19:42 – The fifth way your expectations may be too high – You believe in fairytale love/unconditional love
24:12 – The first example of when your expectations are not too high – Consistent communication/spending time together
26:13 – The next way your expectations are not too high – Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for growing the relationship or working through issues, gaslights you and puts it all on you
28:29 – The third way your expectations are not too high – The idea that “Love is supposed to be hard”
31:04 – The fourth example of when your expectations are not too high – You don’t feel excited by the relationship
34:04 – The last way your expectations are not too high – It’s wrong or mean or not nice to have boundaries or say no
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