The Love Incubator

A 6-month journey for women who are ready to dig deep and discover the art of finding love and a lasting, equal partnership in their life.

You’ve psychoanalyzed yourself to death in therapy, have read all the self-help books, and talked to friends ad nauseam.

You’ve heard you’re “supposed” to love yourself, be yourself and be confident on dates, blah blah blah, but you wonder, how does one do that?!

At this point, you have a laundry list of things to do and not to you learned from self-help books so long that you feel completely overwhelmed and confused.

To be fair, to some extent, the therapy, books, and talking have helped.

You have an idea of why you attract narcissists or emotionally unavailable partners.

But it hasn’t given you that real-world application of how to actually make a change.

And the streak of bad dates and worse partners isn’t helping. Your friends tell you, “You deserve more!” “Forget him!”

The pep talk feels good for a minute, but it’s not providing the space to really grow and explore the deeper layer of what’s not working.

You deeply want to feel the spark, be with a partner that gets you, and have a deep, mutual attraction.

Your ideal partner is someone who completely respects you, supports your successes, and is there with a shoulder to lean on.

How hard can it possibly be to find someone just to do life with?

Yet, you feel like finding love is completely out of your control. You have no clue what you’re doing wrong and you’re afraid you’ll have to choose between settling or staying single. 

And the loneliness…

If it feels like I’m reading your mind, it’s only because I’ve been there.

I struggled in love for YEARS, and have experienced it all: 

A guy too drunk to pick me up for our date (and I agreed to go on ANOTHER date with him… then he did it again, and I BALLED when he dumped me)

A boyfriend who told me that I was too emotional and needed to control it better because “he couldn’t deal.”

Even got a guy who loved me and wanted to marry me, but I couldn’t deal and broke up with him

Had a boyfriend begin a sentence with, “My next girlfriend…”

Was broken up by someone I was crazy about, only to realize I dropped a lot of my friends while I was in the relationship and didn’t have them to lean on when I needed them most

And that’s just scratching the surface.

“Initially, I really hesitated to work with Veronica because it would be like admitting that I had somehow failed at dating + needed help. But the more I thought about it, all of my relationships have a tendency to end in similar ways, so the common thread there was clearly me… so I did need help!

The community has been so awesome and supportive & full of amazing ideas, too! I feel like I have made huge progress in the last month or two when it comes to how I spend my time and energy, so I feel happier and more relaxed in my everyday life.”

Kristen T, Dallas, TX

(Update: Kristen is in a relationship now, and continues to work through her stuff so she can continue having a supportive, loving relationship!)

Kristen T.

Dallas, TX

When you experience failed relationship after failed relationship, it’s hard NOT to think you’re doing something wrong and need to be fixed.

And it’s even harder when you’re going at it alone.

But the more you put this area of your life on the back burner or “fix” your love life with your on-again-off-again relationship with Tinder or with booze, the more alone and stuck you’ll feel.

Then, it becomes easier to fall for his charm because he’s filling that loneliness void all too well.

We all know the relationship will eventually blow up and you’ll cope without doing the deeper work. And the cycle goes on and on.

So I ask you

How much longer are you willing to put up with that?

*Packages start at $995. Much less than many courses that offer no 1:1 coaching!

Time is passing by you no matter what.

The question is, are you available to be in the same spot in your love life six months from now? 

What excuse do you use to hold yourself back? No time? No money? Think this works for others not for you?

Looking, “fixing” this area in your life isn’t rocket science.

But it DOES take intention, resources, and focused time.

And this is 100% doable.

You might think you’re too much or too broken, but that’s not just true.

I’ve worked with hundreds of women, and I’ve seen it all. Nothing you can bring me is “too much.”

My work with clients is about so much more than finding love. It’s about coming home to YOU. Living by your own truth in love, career, health, and all that you do.

How Stacey found freedom in finding love:

I met Jason! We met a year ago July when I was in Colorado, and started dating in November. He lives in the metro-Detroit area, 308 miles door-to-door, which has been good for taking things slowly and building a solid foundation.

He is very different than the men I had been choosing over the past decade, which has been a VERY good thing (as you are well aware!) Checking in on the lessons I have learned in the Love Incubator, and from your Podcasts, have really helped me to be my authentic self, be honest with him and helped us work through some things that have come up that historically I would have handled very differently.

In other words, I drank the kool-aid and it’s worked!! I chose this person based on reality, not fantasy. I continue down the path with him based on our authentic selves. I have been reconciling my ideas of love vs reality in my head as we move through the progression of dating life. And it has been eye-opening and wonderful! I am finally starting to understand what it might look like and how to navigate real love.

Thank you for your help in my journey! 💝

Stacey W.

Chicago, IL

When we work together, we’ll cover topics such as: 

Do deep healing work so you can shift dating patterns that have you attracting emotionally unavailable partners, narcissists, people who tell you they don’t want to commit then marry the next person they date, and more

Getting over an ex, whether it’s a marriage or someone you dated for a bit but can’t shake

Defining your boundaries and how to have them respected by men while keeping their interest

Getting clear on what you actually want so you can manifest it into your life

Trusting yourself and others so you can make decisions confidently and know when you can be vulnerable

Healing childhood wounds that have you attracting men like your parents, or repeating your parents’ mistakes (even if it’s the thing you fear most)

Overcoming people pleasing tendencies so you can have healthier and more fulfilling relationships and friendships

How to ask for what you need in a relationship without feeling needy, bitchy, or starting an argument

Making online dating FUN and actually work for you

Dropping your story on why you haven’t found love so you can create a NEW story

Creating deep female friendships and overcoming pain around name calling and gossiping

By the end of the end of our time together, you’ll feel more like yourself, more confident, and aligned to create what you want in life and love.

“Before working with Veronica, I was disappointed in guys + dating generally. I had stopped trusting them + myself to make the right decision on who to date. With each new relationship I would tell myself I wouldn’t lose “me” again but as it progressed I would and also become resentful of who I was dating.

Veronica kept me accountable to stay true to who I am as I started dating again after a bad breakup. In fact, I didn’t even realize how much my ex was holding me back until Veronica pointed that out to me. She helped me to be learn where my boundaries are + the blocks I failed to see that contributed to my last failed relationship. I used to see red flags very early on in dating guys, but I usually ignored them because I really wanted to be in a relationship. Veronica helped me to stay true to myself.

Now, I can foresee potential problems + red flags earlier, and act on them effectively, whether it’s easily letting a guy go or communicating with them about my concern. I no longer will settling with a guy just because of concerns over my age or biological clock.

In the end, I learned how to love myself again. I no longer stay in relationships with the wrong guys because now I truly love myself + know I deserve more. I have already recommended Veronica to others so that they learn what is blocking them from a healthy relationship. I truly feel like love is on its way for me + I finally have the tools to attract + accept the love I desire. Thanks Veronica!”

Diana R.

Dallas, TX

You won’t be alone anymore.

You’ll be working closely with me (Veronica) and I’ll hold your deepest desires, fears, and worries as sacred. I show up to hold space for you to create the healing and growth you need, and I hold no judgement of your past.

My approach is soft, friendly, yet direct. In fact, I’ve been referred to as your zen best friend who loves yoga and tea, but’ll give it to you straight.

This is because after years of dating all the wrong men, I did my work, met the one, and I know you can too.

Friends are lovely. Sometimes though, you need support from someone who is loving and compassionate, yet will hold you accountable to you.

If you’ve got the awareness around your patterns but still don’t know how to change them, know that you’re in the right place.

Listen to how Mindy’s confidence grew more than she could’ve ever imagined:

As someone who struggled to find lasting love for years, I totally get it.

Each disappointing date or relationship that didn’t work out hurt extra hard because each time it was reopening my wound of validation.

I wasn’t able to source my own validation from within. I needed a man to do that, so each breakup left a man-shaped void in my perfect-from-the-outside life.

Looking back, I was on autopilot, hoping a man would save me from my mundane life.

Six months before I met my husband Stevie, this guy I’d been dating for about 6 weeks broke up with me, and I was devastated.

I stood in my bathroom sobbing uncontrollably. I couldn’t figure out what I could’ve done that would’ve made him more into me. I mean, those first few dates were incredible!

And the crazy thing: on the last 2 dates we were supposed to have, the guy was too drunk to pick me up! Those dates never happened, and yet, I was STILL heartbroken.

I was on the phone with one of my best guy friends, and what he said to me changed everything:

“Veronica, you’re pissing me off. I don’t get how an accomplished and smart woman like yourself can let this guy get to you. He should’ve felt so lucky to be able to date you, but he was too f*ing drunk to pick you up! Get over yourself!”

Ouch. In that moment, I realized my “problem” wasn’t a lack of a man. Nor would a man solve my problems.

It was MY job to fill the void I felt in my life. No one could do that for me. A few months later when I met my now husband, I didn’t know that he’d “be the one,” but I DID know that things were going to be different. I no longer needed him to feel fulfilled, confident, and worthy.

As someone who struggled to find lasting love for years, I totally get it.

Each disappointing date or relationship that didn’t work out hurt extra hard because each time it was reopening my wound of loneliness, leaving a man-shaped void in my perfect-from-the-outside life.

Looking back, I was on autopilot, hoping a man would save me from my mundane life.

Six months before I met my husband Stevie, this guy I’d been dating for about 6 weeks broke up with me, and I was devastated.

I stood in my bathroom sobbing uncontrollably. I couldn’t figure out what I could’ve done that would’ve made him more into me. I mean, those first few dates were incredible!

And the crazy thing: on the last 2 dates we were supposed to have, the guy was too drunk to pick me up! Those dates never happened, and yet, I was STILL heartbroken.

I was on the phone with one of my best guy friends, and what he said to me changed everything:

“Veronica, you’re pissing me off. I don’t get how an accomplished and smart woman like yourself can let this guy get to you. He should’ve felt so lucky to be able to date you, but he was too f*ing drunk to pick you up! Get over yourself!”

Ouch. In that moment, I realized my “problem” wasn’t a lack of a man. Nor would a man solve my problems.

It was MY job to fill the void I felt in my life. No one could do that for me. A few months later when I met my now husband, I didn’t know that he’d “be the one,” but I DID know that things were going to be different. I no longer needed him to feel fulfilled, confident, and worthy.

Now, I’d love to help you do the same thing.

When we work together, you’ll…

Learn how to be vulnerable and how to BE in a relationship

Know what you want and how to ask for it, without being bitchy or “too much”

Learn how to deal with rejection so the fear doesn’t paralyze you

Release control, worry and doubt so you can enjoy new relationships

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Drop old patterns, so you stop attracting the same guy with a different face

Up level your self care so you can set boundaries and say no when you need to (without feeling bad about it!)

Be able to be happy on your own and not depend on others for happiness

Know when people are no longer beneficial to keep in your life (friends or romantic partners), and easily let go

Lauren says the work we do here isn’t “typical”:

Pam got a crazy, totally unforeseen result:

So is private coaching right for you?

If you can answer "YES!" for most of these, then most likely yes, coaching is a great fit! Are you...

Committed to making change and doing the inner work to shift your mindset around dating and relationships?

Feeling frustrated after therapy; even though it helps some, it’s not enough real world, practical action?

Not dating and and you have no idea where to start, your dating life feels like one hit wonders, or you’re in a relationship but aren’t sure if it’s really the right one?

Done with the “dating game”, the superficial rules, and lowering your standards to find a partner?

Ready to take responsibility for your own happiness and confront the things that are holding you back from attracting healthy relationships, even if it’s scary?

Willing and able to find the time, money, and resources to make it happen?

However, coaching is NOT a good fit for you if:

You aren’t ready to do the work to make changes in your life.

You think that men or online dating are the problem and you just want me to validate that belief for you. (I won’t.)

You aren’t willing to make time for the program and the effort it requires, or find the money.

You aren’t interested in attracting a lifelong partnership.

“I was afraid of the unknown, and all the “what ifs” popped up in my head. I was insecure that I wouldn’t put the best photos up or say the right thing to attract a high quality man that is right for me.

With Veronica “holding my hand,” I was able to feel more secure in my selections. You warned I might be overwhelmed at the beginning with responses. And oh, that was so true, but I was prepared for that. In the past, I would have thought I had to respond to everything, but now, I hit the delete button with confidence if I’m not interested.

Thankfully no dic pics have been sent to me or anything remotely suggestive. And now, I’ve been dating someone I really like since October 2016!”

Sherri W.

Amarillo, TX

How coaching helped Stacey in love and her career:

Working with me can be your last stop on the finding love train.

If you feel called to explore if coaching with me is the right step for you, here’s what to do next:

Step 1:

Click below to download my 2021 coaching services and pricing guide.

Step 2:

Review the guide and get a feel for how I work with clients

Step 3:

After you review the guide, book your Intro Consult with me. (If you’re ready to do that now, here’s the link.)

Step 4:

Have said call. 🙂

Step 5:

If we decide coaching is a good fit, you’ll submit your payment, I’ll send you your agreement forms, you’ll schedule your Relationship Deep Dive call with me, and start diving in.

In the coaching guide, I walk you through package options, pricing, FAQs and how to book an Introductory Consult with me.

women we’ve helped

“I’m a single mom with two girls, and even though I knew working with Veronica was something I truly wanted to do, I hesitated because of the money. After that fleeting thought, I followed my gut knowing this was for me. Veronica had a good vibe and I had listened to her podcasts (repeatedly) throughout the Date Yourself Challenges.

One of the greatest things I learned from Veronica was to identify my needs within a relationship and what that feels like. I was able to forget what my head was telling me, and stayed clear during a date. I focused on how the date made me feel vs. what they looked like on paper.

I really changed my expectations of any date that I went on. I looked at what I could learn about the other person or about myself. My goal each date was to have fun. That totally took a lot of pressure off of me about finding “the one”. It allowed me to be present and not as nervous during the date. I was being my authentic self because I very clear about who I was, what I wanted to feel and I was confident with what I brought to the table. I was happy and fulfilled with myself.

I would try and be more conscious and aware of what I needed to do to make myself feel loved and appreciated. I am more aware of my own needs and ways that I can fulfill my own needs without looking at a partner to fill those needs for me.

I would recommend everyone take this course: married, single, or dating. There are aspects of the course that are so transferable for individual growth and development. Veronica is down to earth and has an amazing approach to dating. I loved that she doesn’t really sugar coat things, and she tells it how it is.

Plus, I met my husband while I was working with Veronica! 🙂

Kaeli Y.

Ontario, Canada

If you feel called to explore if coaching with me is the right step for you, here’s what to do next:

Step 1:

Click below to download my 2021 coaching services and pricing guide.

Step 2:

Review the guide and get a feel for how I work with clients

Step 3:

After you review the guide, book your Intro Consult with me. (If you’re ready to do that now, here’s the link.)

Step 4:

Have said call. 🙂

Step 5:

If we decide coaching is a good fit, you’ll submit your payment, I’ll send you your agreement forms, you’ll schedule your Relationship Deep Dive call with me, and start diving in.

In the coaching guide, I walk you through package options, pricing, FAQs and how to book an Introductory Consult with me.

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