You are a woman that has it all — the good job, decent family life and good friends. Maybe even a cute dog. Everything seems fine on the surface but there’s one thing missing — a good man.
You’ve read the books, done the courses and done everything possible but you keep ending up with these losers and you are left wondering — is it just me?
My name is Veronica, and I’m a Love-Life Coach. I do the work I do because for years, I asked myself that same question.
Each disappointing date or relationship that didn’t work out hurt extra hard not because of him rejecting me, but because each time it was reopening my wound of loneliness and have little meaning beyond my perfect-from-the-outside life.
I was on autopilot, hoping a man would shake things up.
Let me tell you about my bathroom floor moment.
About 6 months before I met Stevie, this guy I’d been dating for about 6 weeks broke up with me, and I was devastated.
I remember standing in my bathroom sobbing uncontrollably. I couldn’t figure out where it went wrong and what I could’ve done that would’ve made him more into me. I couldn’t stop thinking about how amazing those first few date were!
But here’s the crazy thing: on the last 2 dates we were supposed to have, the guy was too drunk to pick me up! Those dates never happened, and yet, I was STILL heartbroken.
But here I was standing over my sink balling so hard I could barely talk. I was on the phone with one of my best guy friends, and what he said to me changed everything:
“Veronica, you’re pissing me off. I don’t get how an accomplished and smart woman like yourself can let this guy get to you. He should’ve felt so lucky to be able to date you, but he was too f*ing drunk to pick you up! Get over yourself!”
Ouch. But as I looked at my swollen eyes in the mirror, I had this feeling of “How the hell did I end up here?” That’s when I realized my “problem” wasn’t a lack of a man. Nor would a man solve my problems.
I took 100% responsibility for my happiness and realized that I was doing everything backwards. I thought a good man lead to a good life.
The secret to finding a good man is to have a great life.
I know what you are thinking : “I already have a good life”
You’ve checked all the boxes but if you really take a good look at your life, there might be some things you want to change. I’ve helped hundreds of women create a life they love so a relationship can truly be the icing on the cake.
My clients have gotten into amazing relationships after a lifetime of NEVER having healthy, meaningful relationships. I’ve helped clients confidently leave relationships and marriages that were not making them truly fulfilled. And I’ve had clients create a life of more depth and meaning so they feel happy, relaxed, and can actually enjoy the dating process.
The best piece of praise I ever got from a client was, “I don’t know how you do it, but you’ve helped me way more than my years of therapy!” Stories like these makes me proud and drives everything I do.
Falling in love with yourself and your life is the only way to find lasting love with someone else — and if you don’t have love or haven’t had a healthy relationship, it means the life part of the equation still needs work.
Now, I want to help you do just that.
Want to know more? Here are 5 fun facts about me:
- My fiance and I moved to Denver so we can hike every weekend.
- I love dabbling with DIY beauty products in the kitchen. In fact, I send new private clients whatever I have made up, like homemade lip gloss, face masks, or scented candles as a welcome gift.
- I met my fiancé in a really crappy bar in Washington, DC. So crappy, that on our one year anniversary, I wouldn’t even let him take me there!
- My first job after grad school was as an Arabic translator, but I quickly realized that the political world wasn’t good for my health. (Lesson: It’s okay to throw it all away and start over.)
- I once hitchhiked in Tanzania with my sister…and there was a dead body in the back of truck. (Ask me if you want the FULL story.)